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Masochistic tendencies play havoc with a straight and a gay couple’s lives in this misconceived contemporary drama that’s given an overblown production.

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Joe Chisolm and Jimmy Brooks in a scene from S. Asher Gelman’s “safeword.” (Photo credit: Mati Gelman)

[avatar user=”Darryl Reilly” size=”96″ align=”left” ] Darryl Reilly, Critic[/avatar]

“It’s a restaurant, Lauren, not a not a fetish club!”

“It could be both.”

So argues a husband and wife near the end of safeword., a misconceived contemporary drama which seeks to dramatize the BDSM (bondage, discipline, dominance and sadomasochism) mindset. Author S. Asher Gelman had a success with his compelling self-directed 2017 play Afterglow. That was a taut, small-scale and explicit depiction of a young New York City gay couple’s taking in a third participant for sex. Its fans should be aware that there’s no male nudity or any real erotic content in safeword. Men are in boxer briefs briefly and there’s a whipping scene performed by someone in black leather and that’s about it on that count.

Mr. Asher here continues to mine the subject of human sexuality, but lightning has not struck twice. That is chiefly due to Asher’s misguidedly grandiose direction (with associate director Mika Kauffman) emphasizing stylish spectacle at the expense of the clunky plot. It also slows down the numerous scene transitions. One ends, there’s dragged-out showy lighting and loud music, characters often walk around and then finally it’s on to the next scene.

A lot of effort has been expended on rows of lights all over the place that change color.  The spacious theater has been configured to include upper playing levels that wrap around. There’s overdone music and bracing, often red-hued lighting perpetually overwhelming a psychological exploration that takes place in two apartments. We’re physically distant from the characters which adds detachment from them as well. The main problem is the flawed writing.

At a building in Manhattan Chelsea’s neighborhood, we meet two couples. Lauren is a 31-year-old African-American woman married to Micah, a 31-year-old Caucasian man. They met in high school and both later went to the Culinary Institute of America. After they jointly opened an eventually successful restaurant, Lauren decided to stop cooking and now works as a customer service specialist for a tech company while Micah is the chef and runs the restaurant. Lauren comes in contact with their loquacious neighbor, the Jewish 29-year-old Chris, a genderqueer nurse practitioner whose partner of seven years is the 33-year-old Jewish African-American Xavier who has had a long career as a professional dominant. He verbally and physically abuses men for $300 an hour in his prop-strewn dungeon which conjoins Chris’ apartment. Did you get all of this? The first hour of the 100 minutes is heavy on exposition.

Joe Chisolm, Jimmy Brooks and Maybe Burke (above) and Traci Elaine Lee (below) in a scene from S. Asher Gelman’s “safeword.” (Photo credit: Mati Gelman)

Asher’s stage directions specify his characters’ races, sexual orientations and ages, but the coincidental multiracial angle of the relationships goes unremarked on. Apart from hamstringing the casting of the play, there’s no integral reason for such absolute characteristics.

Lauren arranges a dinner party for the two couples after befriending Chris. There’s tension which is understandable because we later learn Micah has been having weekly two-hour sadomasochistic sessions with Xavier for the past three years!

It is made clear that Micah is not attracted to men and that there’s no sex involved. He craves degradation from a stranger in a controlled environment. Asher tosses off that the two communicated via a kink website but there’s never a full-fledged analysis of what drives Micah to such outrageous lengths. There is a choppy confession of being stressed out and that he believes that these activities will strengthen him and save his strained marriage.

This type of material has been vividly rendered in European films such as Barbet Schroeder’s Maîtresse (1975) and Michael Haneke’s The Piano Teacher (2001). The Showtime series Billions features a main character who is matter-of-factly a submissive. These works offer far more insight, depth and allure than safeword. Of course, there’s also Jean Genet’s The Balcony (1957) with its pillars of society figures’ shenanigans at a brothel.

Micah’s compulsion is the potentially intriguing core of this lamely constructed play. However, it is embedded in this shaky treatment that comes across as a sitcom with shades of Rosemary’s Baby and No Sex Please, We’re British. The old chestnut of a nice young couple menaced by seemingly well-meaning neighbors yarn oddly plays out in this overblown production. Besides being aghast when finding all of this out, Lauren is taken aback by the cost of it. Her loving attempt to fulfill Micah’s needs is demonstrated when she tries spanking him with a kitchen spatula. This act is meant to be eerie but becomes comical.

Traci Elaine Lee and Maybe Burke in a scene from S. Asher Gelman’s “safeword.” (Photo credit: Mati Gelman)

With their cheery speech patterns, animated presence and passionate sincerity, Maybe Burke is outstanding as Chris. Whether glowering or anguished, Joe Chisholm as Micah makes the most of this underdeveloped pivotal role with his appealing everyman qualities. The quietly charismatic Jimmy Brooks is a believable and sympathetic Xavier. Traci Elaine Lee is delightfully plucky as Lauren. Ms. Lee’s extensive background in regional theater musicals is evidenced by her rich vocal tones and relaxed manner. That serves her well when she has to parade around in dominatrix gear for what is intended as a serious turning point but is instead laughable. Lee confidently sails on.

The technical elements are all accomplished but crush the piece’s intimacy. Ann Beyersdorfer’s epic scenic design would be suitable for Greek tragedy or A View from the Bridge. Painted scrims indicate a metropolis engulfing the residences with their gray, black and white decor and ominous playroom on an upper level. The S&M recreations are so far away from the audience that they’re uninvolving.

Lighting designer Jamie Roderick (who often turns the stage red) and sound designer Kevin Heard are both in overdrive telegraphing moods and plot twists with their obtrusive contributions. Besides the appropriate fetish regalia, costume designer Fabian Fidel Aguilar offers a fine assortment of present day fashions including some fabulous feminine outfits for Chris. Matt Franta’s realistic violence design infuses those portions with authenticity.

A safeword is a prearranged term spoken by a submissive to signal that their pain threshold for an activity has been reached and for it to cease. Though safeword.’s promising premise is frustratingly realized it does impart pertinent facts.

safeword. (through July 7, 2019)

Midnight Theatricals

American Theatre of Actors, 314 W. 54th Street, in Manhattan

For tickets, call 866-811-4111 or visit

Running time: 100 minutes with no intermission

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7 Comments on safeword.

  1. Paris Green // April 27, 2019 at 8:46 am // Reply

    Hi, I’d just like to point out that Maybe Burke is a non-binary actor, and Chris is also a non-binary character. They use the pronouns they/them. Could you please update your review to reflect this change? Thank you.

  2. Maggie Keenan-Bolger // April 27, 2019 at 10:56 am // Reply

    Maybe Burke goes by they/them/their pronouns, not he/him/his. Also, why is genderqueer in quotation marks while none of the other defining characteristics are?

    • Darryl Reilly // April 27, 2019 at 11:50 am // Reply

      The quotes for genderqueer were to quote the term the author used in the stage directions. On reflection it is not necessary. The editor has been made aware of this and the proper pronouns. The review will be corrected. Thank you all for your input.

  3. Katie Lindsay // April 28, 2019 at 12:47 pm // Reply

    Please correct Maybe Burke’s pronouns! You are right that they are outstanding, but it is not outstanding to be misgendered in this review.

  4. Maybe Burke is a nonbinary actor and uses they/them pronouns. Misgendering a performer (or any human) is really harmful.

  5. Jax Jackson // April 28, 2019 at 2:18 pm // Reply

    Please edit this review to reflect Maybe Burke’s pronouns they/them, and please remove genderqueer from the quotes that invalidate the identity of the character and artists who worked on this piece.

    • Darryl Reilly // April 28, 2019 at 4:55 pm // Reply

      These corrections have been made. I regret the distress that was unintentionally caused and will diligently go forward enlightened.

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